And then I found this, and remembered that one of the things about our friends is that they make us be smarter and better than we are.
Selena's interview questions with my answers
Meanwhile Kitsune's smart interview
1. If you ever meet the Christian God, what will your first three actions
be and why?
Bow my head in respectful acknowledgement of what Homer Simpson called 'my favourite fictional character, make a large pot of cofee and pull up two chairs so that I could ask him all the really important questions.
2. What, for you, is love?
Love is that sense of the infinite diversity of the universe and the possibility of joy caught up in a fragile changable person, and so with that sense of possible time-expiry that makes it precious. Love is having that sense depend on being sensitive to every transaction that goes on between you and another person, and thus being aware of all your faults and having to try to be better. Love is only partly to do with sex - I can love people passionately and know that sex is not an option, or should not be even if it is, and sometimes that makes it even more important to make things work, because we do not have sex to use as a bribe or comforter. Love is one of the best moments in life, and it comes and goes like the weather.
3. Who in your life has had the biggest influence on you?
My important lovers - the dead one, who taught me a lot about sophistication; the one I am with, who taught me about my imperfections; the one I see a lot, who taught me about guilt and inevitability when I left them and about the possibility of forgiveness and the way friendship can survive love's death; the one I never see, who taught me that sex is fun and that I am not only my intellect and wit. My mentors - Liz and Lorna and Francis and John and JD.
My friends - all of them. And then there are the bad influences - Edward Heath whose actions threw me out of my first good job; Margaret Thatcher who wrecked all our hopes; Tony Blair who betrayed us.
4. Have you ever been entrusted with secrets that you'll take to the grave, and if you, have you ever been tempted to share them anyway, and why?
I take secrets seriously, but there is always a clause where sharing them is the right thing to do. I have never revealed an important secret frivolously or maliciously and have kept secrets for people who had become enemies in the fact of immense provocation.
5. When did you first realise you could be sexy?
Mostly I don't think I am - it happens when people tell me I am, or when they jump me. Most of the time I rely on wit and smarts and charm. People really do have to make the first move.
My thanks to wild_irises who was around at the right moment to calm me down when I gently freaked on AIM.