And they may have a point.
However, I have spent my entire adult life as a transwoman having cis-gendered people tell me what I should feel and indeed what I do feel; I have to struggle everyday with internalized transphobia that this has imposed on me. This remains true even at my advanced age and considerable articulacy. Yet I manage, and one of the ways I manage is constant close analysis of my own feelings and own emotions, which you have just entirely disrespected on the basis of a general perspective that ignores all the intersectionalities of actual white people's actual identity.
So, right now, I am calling you out for the deep cis-gendered privilege implicit in your remark. This is not a debating point. I respect that position of the one or two transfolk in this part of the debate and their respect for other opinions.
I also live with mild and high-functioning clinical depression, so accurate self-monitoring is an important survival strategy for me. Again, I do not claim to get everything right, but I object to being told that other people know my triggers better than I do.